The Way You Talk to Yourself Matters!

Though we might not manage to see it, we’re often too hard on ourselves.

Experts call it internal dialogue, and it is sometimes done out loud, though more often
than not, it isn’t heard. What always happens, however, is that somehow or other, it
gradually shapes our life.

If we think of our mind as a fertile garden, we harvest what we
sow. And we all want good fruit!

Are you very hard on yourself? People who are highly self-critical develop a problem of
damaged self-image and negative thoughts. “Sowing” love, on the other hand, leads to a positive attitude toward life, and that definitely makes a difference.

Dr. Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, says that “negative internal
dialogue can lead to depression, anxiety and a general feeling of impotence.”

Furthermore, psychologist and pioneer in the study of self-compassion, Kristin Neff holds that “the way we talk to ourselves at difficult times can mean the difference between suffering and resilience.”

“Our internal words turn into beliefs,
which, in turn,
become our reality.”

If we continuously repeat negative messages, like ‘I’m useless’ or ‘I’ll never be successful,’ those beliefs will take hold in our mind and become a self-imposed reality, explains Sandra Elisa Roch, founder of “SER By Panterita,” a personal and spiritual growth platform.

Practical Advice

Many things happen accidentally and are not in your hands to prevent; they don’t make you less intelligent or less worthy.

Talk to yourself with the kindness and understanding that you use when your friends are in trouble.

Try to always be nice, both to others and to yourself.

Speak to yourself confidently, and visualize success. The road to achieving it will be easier.

If others believe your discourse, they will put their trust in it. For that to happen, the first one who has to believe it is you.